Mantras are not what most people think. Westerners tend to oversimplify rituals and philosophies to suit their own needs; mantras are no exception. A mantra is not a slogan to haul out when you are stressed. Yet many a divorced or divorcing (or simply splitting) dad could benefit from learning five guiding words to regain his calm when co-parenting seems ...
The greatest chess match ever played is said by most experts to be the 1999 game pitting Garry Kasparov against Veselin Topalov. If you worry that a divorce is like a chess match, you may think you need to plan five, or ten, or 20 moves ahead. So, who should make the first move? When it Come to Divorce, is ...
Most of us recount having to “call” possessions as a kid. You know: “I call that chair,” “I call the back seat in the car, in the middle, my feet on the hump.” Do you have to do the same thing as a married Virginia man? Can your wife clean out your home when you are away? Well, no, she ...
What’s the worst four-letter word? Nope, it’s not that one, that one, or even the c-word. It’s “just,” as in “I just want to make some adjustments to the materials, color scheme, timeline, and budget of my home remodeling project.” Ranking up there, too, are phrases like, “We could just make a few dozen changes to the legally binding agreement ...
We’ve mentioned the Australian Pitch Drop Experiment before, related to recordkeeping. We mention it again because the nine drops of pitch1 (a tar-like substance) that have fallen from the laboratory funnel since 1927 may seem to be moving faster than your Virginia divorce. Here’s what you can do to speed that up. The divorce, not the pitch. How Long Does ...
January 1, 2018 was monumental for many reasons. For many a bleary-eyed party-goer, the day started late and held such auspicious news as a new world darts champion and California’s move to legalize recreational cannabis. And, of course, the United States military inaugurated its Blended Retirement System. Happy New Year! BRS – The Blended Retirement System It’s our beloved military, ...
Have you ever been to a Virginia civil court proceeding? It’s truly wild, with fans shouting and a court clerk wandering the crowded aisles shouting, “Fresh laws! Get your fresh, new laws here!” No. It’s not like that at all, even when a law is straight out of the sausage factory in Richmond. The law we’re thinking of was newly ...
Montgomery Gentry wrote a song about it. “I’ll Keep the Kids” tells of the whole package: separation, divorce, child custody. But what happens outside of a Nashville recording studio, out here in the real world, when your wife up and leaves, and you have the house, the dog, and the kids to care for? This Little Thing We Like to ...
To have and to hold. Those are part of many traditional wedding vows. That word, “hold,” is directly related to another word: tenant. Tenants — folks renting a space from a landlord — are named from the Latin word tenere, “to hold.” Unless your wife is a tenant in your marital home, you have no legal right to kick her ...